LETS' DO IT! ROMANTIC RELATIONSHIP.

by Crispus Gichuki Dating refers to the period in which two individuals (male and female) are assessing their suitability as partners to an intimate relationship. It involves exploring to check whether they are compatible enough. Exploring would imply working out to discover the other person's traits, weaknesses, strengths, vision among others. The 5 Stages of Dating .   1. Attraction Dating relationships start from a point. Attraction level is the initial stage of it all. Early attraction is attributed to outward appearance, personality traits and bold type. Differences may not be noticed and flaws are dismissed with "not a big deal", "it’s okay", "she will change" Every person who gets to dating has their story and it's very different and unique from other people's story. Let me give a short story about Kim and Angela.   Angela and Kim met on campus. Angela had been requested by Pauline to take her to the washroom. As Angela waited for Pauli...

  Ready to Have Expensive Choices? by Crispus Gichuki Have you ever found yourself stranded between two or more options? How did you choose the best option? Proverbs 18:22 He who finds a wife finds a good thing, and obtains favor from the LORD. ( NKJV) The concept of finding comes as a result of looking for ( searching) and critically examining to get the best. It involves checking on it's worthwhile, benefits and demerits. The choice that one take, makes a total difference in their life. This leads to implication that choices have consequences. Rush not while making serious decisions. While choosing a partner you will need time to earnestly pray and inspect carefully because it's a long term decision you are to make. Before choosing a partner, to get into the relationship with, you must be certain that you are ready. Readiness comes as a result of prior preparation. 4 Ways to Know you are Ready for a Relationship? 1. Count the Cost. Luke 14:28 "For which of you, intending...

        Paying The Cost of Love in a Relationship. by   Crispus Gichuki. Money certainly cannot buy it but love has a cost. Its neither commodity nor a good to be traded but very precious energy or vigor that cost our life force. Infinite love is clearly illustrated by Christ who appeared in the form of man, humbled Himself and became obedient to the point of death on the cross for the sake of humanity. God gave his Son Jesus Christ to come and redeem the world through shedding off his blood. The depicts of the splendid love for humanity by the Godhead. This the selfless love that should be cultivate in relationship. Just as Christ paid the cost for love of humanity by losing his life that we may have life, so do a relationship has to. Before getting to the relationship, you need to examine yourself if you are ready to pay the cost of it. No price is too high for the one we love. Bobby J Mattingly says "to love another fully and completely is to surrender your h...

    Examine Yourself To Know Your Personality Temperament by Crispus Gichuki. Personality temperament refers to the innate and instinct traits that an individual possess. This temperaments help know one's tendencies, weaknesses and strengths. There are four personality temperaments which include:-    1. Sanguine temperament.    2. Cho leric  temperament.    3. Melancholic  temperament.    4. Phlegmatic  temperament.             4 Reasons to know the personality temperament. (i) To know of one's natural strengths. Knowing one's strengths help identify capabilities and potentials that one could do best. It enables one to have a better understanding of oneself. It also boost confidence and increase productivity. (ii)Know of one's natural weaknesses Your traits cannot be changed but adjusted. Knowing one's temperament is important as it help to adjust the traits. For instance being hot tempered ca...

by Crispus Gichuki Relationship is an independent connection between two people (male and female) who are in a close proximity with mutual benefit and agreed set of principles.  Relationships do not make people happy, they are for the happy people.   Types Of Romantic Relationship •Co-dependent relationship •Submissive relationship •Open relationship •Long distance relationship •Toxic relationship •Independent relationship Evaluating your relationship to know of the category it lies is essential as it is the basic thing and helps understand its purpose . What to check before getting into the relationship? 1. The little foxes  Song of songs 2:15 "Catch us the foxes, the little foxes that spoil the vines, for our vines have tender grapes." This refers to the small and minor traits that become evident to the person you intend to date.  They later come to be issues if not we'll addressed and ends up making the relationship toxic.  2. Purpose  Do you need a rel...

by Crispus Gichuki The first moment we met That jiffy, I can never forget We came to be friends so cheaply It was so facile I look back and think Surely, The Lord knew it You're fit for me. As time flew We spent sleepless nights Having serious and terrible conversations Jokes clicked Made us laugh all night long As time elapsed, we grew closer Unaware, I slipped into your hand a rose Genuflecting and a smile of my face Tears flowed down your cheeks From your beauteous eyes. That moment, changed my view for you You were no longer just a friend Listener to my amazing and painful experience. Each time I'm sad and low  I look for you. Gorgeous! I didn't know it was love  Compatible realized to be Trust grew with time Loyalty we cultivated Love is a flower That draws bees from a distance Sweeter than honey. Infinite it has been This is love!

by Crispus Gichuki Love is a cultivation of an inward feeling between two persons that grows with time. It begins from knowing each other and progresses into deeply sharing personal experiences.  Love grows and surely teaches immensely. It moulds one to be a better person. It helps to shape, sharpen and adjust our personal traits. The essence of being transformed is to be fully compatible. Love entails absolute commitment. A relationship without commitment is a Casual Relationship and easily breeds insecurity and jealousy. Commitment on the other hand helps to be secure, patient, kind and caring. It keeps us to late night and wakes us very early. Love involves some levels of intimacy. Intimacy refers to emotional closeness in the two persons. The four levels of intimacy are spiritual intimacy, emotional intimacy, intellectual intimacy and physical intimacy. The loss of intimacy leads to the termination of the relationship. Love builds up trust and fidelity. It's likely to trust the...